Every parent knows the feeling: your baby is crying and nothing you try seems to help. It’s exhausting, it’s stressful, and in the moment it can feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t know what to do.
The good news is that sometimes a simple, gentle technique is all it takes. In this video, Dr. Hamilton — a paediatrician at Pacific Ocean Pediatrics in Santa Monica, CA — demonstrates a hold he uses to settle crying infants during office visits. Parents who have learned it report great success trying it at home too.
Dr Bob’s “The Hold” Technique
Dr Hamilton’s method, often referred to as “The Hold”, is simple to learn:
1. Fold the baby’s arms across their chest.
2. Secure the arms gently in place.
3. Hold the nappy/diaper area.
4. Gently rock the baby at a 45-degree angle.
If Your Baby Doesn’t Settle
Not every crying episode has the same cause, and no single technique works every time. If The Hold doesn’t calm your baby, it’s worth checking a few other things first:
- Is your baby hungry or due a feed?
- Could they need a nappy change?
- Are they overtired or overstimulated?
- Is the crying unusual, persistent, or accompanied by other signs that something’s wrong? If so, it’s best to check in with your GP or public health nurse.
Over to you now — have you tried this calming technique with your own baby? We’d love to hear how you got on.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is “The Hold” technique for calming a crying baby?
It’s a gentle method demonstrated by paediatrician Dr Hamilton, where you fold the baby’s arms across their chest, hold the arms and nappy area securely, and rock them gently at a 45-degree angle.
Does this technique work for every baby?
Not necessarily. Every baby is different, and what soothes one may not soothe another. It’s worth trying gently and combining it with checking the basics — hunger, a nappy change, or tiredness.
When should I be concerned about my baby’s crying?
If crying is persistent, unusual for your baby, or comes with other signs such as fever, feeding difficulties, or general unwellness, it’s best to contact your GP or public health nurse for guidance.
Is it safe to try this hold myself?
Watch the full video demonstration carefully before trying it, and always support your baby’s head and body gently. If you’re ever unsure, ask your public health nurse or GP to show you in person.
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