Are you facing into the teenage years with your daughter? The teenage years can be turbulent for any family, but also lots of fun. For the kids themselves, so much is changing and happening to them, it’s worth telling them a few pearls of your wisdom and experience. Here are 10 Important Things You Should Tell Your Teenager Daughter.
And we haven’t forgotten sons either! Here are 10 Important Pieces of Advice to Give your Teenage Son.
#1. It’s Okay to Say NO
Not just to sex but to anything that makes her feel uncomfortable or that she feels is bad or unsafe; alcohol, drugs, smoking, getting in a car with someone who has had a drink, going to a place she doesn’t want to be.
Equip her to stand up for herself and tell her you know she is smart enough to know what situations to avoid. And if she finds herself somewhere she doesn’t want to be, reassure her that she can call you anytime.
To avoid potential embarrassment , you could have a code word or phrase that she can text which means call me and tell me I have to come home or please come and get me. She could also do this with a friend, so they can help each other out too.
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#2. Be True to Yourself and Be Confident
From style to experiences, always be true to yourself. Listen to what others have to say but always have the confidence to make up your own mind and express your own thoughts.
It would be a very boring world if we were all the same!
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#3. Good Friendships Last
We all fall out from time to time but good friendships will last a lifetime. Some of my best friends are from my teenage years. They know more about me than almost anyone else and we have grown up together, got into trouble together but best of all had great, fun experiences together.
Always look out for your friends and treat them well.
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#4. We All Grow & Change at Different Rates
Our bodies change dramatically during our Teenage years. We all mature and grow at different rates from getting breasts to periods, from BO and spots to pubic hair and everything in between.
Never tell your daughter she is fat or too large and gently tell family members to keep their thoughts on this subject to themselves aswel! We have all been there when a family member you have not seen for awhile meets you and feels obliged to share their thoughts on how much you have grown….and not in a good way!
All you can advise is to eat a healthy diet, most of the time anyway, shower regularly, take exercise not to be thin, but to be healthy. And by all means compare notes with friends but know that they may be experiencing changes at a different rate than you. And remember, clothes come in all shapes and sizes, not all shop sizes are the same, it depends on the garment.
#5. Be Happy & Have Fun
Yes there will be tough times; exams, love, periods, new school, spots and much much more besides but make sure she enjoys these years and makes memories that will last a lifetime.
#6. Stick to the Boundaries
It is a good idea to set boundaries with your teenage daughter. Do this together so she does not feel that you are trying to dictate how she should live her life. Set these early on in the teenage years and stick to them. and I mean you as well as her!
Make them fair and remember they can change as she grows and gains in confidence and maturity.
#7. Learn to Manage Your Money
Teenagers live in an ‘instant world’ where many are used to getting almost anything they want when they want it. Teach your daughter that a bargain is not always a bargain and just because everyone else has one does not mean that she has to have one too!.
Help your daughter learn to budget, a weekly allowance can help teach her the value of money. Teach her about savings and how important it is to put some of her allowance away each week for unforseen bills like phone credit or a night out.
#8. Have Manners
They cost nothing and go a long way to making life easier as you grow.
- Always look people directly in the eye when you speak to them, don’t mumble.
- Have a strong handshake and always say please and thank-you.
- Respect your elders, they have been around a lot longer than you have!
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#9. Always On World
From social media sites to mobile phones, they are rarely away from their ‘devices’ for a long period of time. It is important to instill a sense of understanding in your teenager about how this mobile world can affect their lives, not just now but into the future.
And how to ask for help if they are experiencing bullying or problems online.
Teach them that anonymous does not always remain anonymous, pictures and comments posted now will stay on the internet forever for future employers, partners and families to look at. So before they post, ask them to consider how they would feel if you saw it?
Try and get them to take a break from screen time, to read for fun, not just study, to hang out with friends or to take some exercise or play sport.
#10. I Love You and Will Always Be Here For You
Last but certainly not least make sure they know how much you love them now and will love them no matter what they have done.
Strive to have the kind of relationship where your daughter can talk to you and feel that you will not judge, but will listen and give the best advice you can.
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Have you any thoughts you think are good to share with your teenage daughter? Please share them in the comments box below.