Is your child over the age of 5, and still bedwetting? Wondering how best to resolve this, or if what you’re doing is correct? Children’s Behavioural Specialist & Author Alicia Eaton outlines 7 Mistakes Parents Make When Dealing with Bedwetting from her book Words That Work: How to Get Kids to Do Almost Anything.
1. Stay Quiet
It’s good to talk! It’s not uncommon to hear advice about how it’s best not to mention the problem so as not to make an issue of it.
Quite often this means the bedwetting habit never gets discussed, and regularly I come across children who simply don’t realise that they shouldn’t wear pull-ups any more and visit the bathroom instead. So, tell your kids what it is you want them to do.
2. Restrict Drinks
On the face of it, it kind of makes sense to limit drinks to reduce the quantity of urine produced, but experts agree that this can result in a small bladder that needs emptying frequently. It’s good to drink lots during the day to stretch the bladder and get it used to holding a large amount.
Another common mistake is to get into the habit of ‘lifting’ your child to the bathroom, just before you go to bed yourself. Again – this seems like a good idea, but most children are pretty near fast asleep when they get taken.
So, in fact, what you’re doing is training your child to wee in their sleep – precisely what you don’t want them to be doing.
4. Continue to use Nappies and Night-time Pull-ups
One of the problems with modern day nappies is their superior quality and absorbency. This is great for babies and young children, but pretty soon your child needs to be experiencing that feeling of wetness against the skin, so the mind and body can start working together.
Once your child is 5 years old, think about getting rid of these for good.
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5. Create an Obstacle Course to get to the Bathroom
Your child needs to feel confident about getting up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. Check that the route is completely clear, without left-over jigsaw puzzles, toys and dirty clothes getting in the way.
6. Offer Bribes and Rewards
Don’t get into the habit of attaching rewards to getting dry beds. Introducing treats such as money, toys or sweets will only distract your child at just the moment they need to be concentrating on their ‘goal’ – dry beds. And if your child does get a wet bed, they’ll feel like a ‘double failure’.
7. Give Up Too Quickly
Too often I hear stories from parents of how they got fed up with wet beds after a couple of weeks and put their child back into night-time pull-ups. The key to success is to decide on a course of action and stick with it. Success usually happens when we least expect it to.
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Alicia Eaton is a Children’s Behavioural Specialist and Licensed NLP Coach based in London. Read more about how easy it can be to put an end to your child’s bedwetting habit in her best-selling book Stop Bedwetting in Seven Days available on Alicia Eaton Store. You can also avail of Alicia’s Stop Bedwetting in 7 Days Video Course.
For more information on how Alicia Eaton can help, visit her site Success 4 Kids.
Over to you! Have you had experience of dealing with bedwetting – share your experience in comments below.