Getting information from your child about their day at preschool or school can sometimes feel like you are embarking on an interrogation routine with a chief suspect in a crime! And often all you get in return is a non-committal, don’t know, yes or no answer! Here is how to get your child to open up about their day and create meaningful conversations without having to ask questions.
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Some children run out of creche or school and can’t wait to tell you all about their day and some don’t. Here are some tips to help learn more about their day at creche or school.
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How To Get Your Child To Open Up About Their Day
Don’t Bombard Them With Questions
Don’t bombard your child with questions as soon as you see them. They will often be tired and, just like us, may need time to decompress after their day.
Often sharing a snack or curling up together with a book will relax your child and give you an opportunity for some gentle questioning to get them to open up about their day at creche or school.
Talk About Their Day
If you ask questions that require a simple yes, no or don’t know answer, your child is less likely to share information with you. Instead talk about their day.
If you are lucky enough to have an app in place you can use the information to jog your child’s memory and get them thinking and talking about their day.
- Instead of asking, “What was the best toy you played with today?’’, you can now start a conversation with “I see you were playing with the big yellow truck today”.
- Or instead of “Who did you play with in creche today?”, you can say, “I see you played with Sarah today, you love playing with Sarah”.
- Instead of “What did you have for lunch today?”, you can say, “I see you made cookies for lunch today, can I taste some of yours”.
Statements rather than questions can elicit a better response from a child, and encourages further conversation.
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Share Stories About Your Day
Sometimes by sharing stories and information with your child about your day, makes them more excited to share stories about their day.
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Sit Down Together For Dinner or Family Time
Simply by coming together as a family and maybe chatting over dinner, offers a relaxed atmosphere for everyone to share insights into their day. From your child in creche to older children and you and your partner.
No TV, no phones, no distractions is the best way to bond and keep in touch with what is going on in everyone’s lives.
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You may often find that your child can’t wait to tell you all about their day as soon as you mention bedtime! Build time into the bedtime routine to allow for them to share their stories with you.
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Don’t Forget To Listen
It may sound obvious, but often we cut across our children or only half listen to what they are saying. Take the time to really listen to what your child has to say. That way they know they can talk to you and are more likely to share stories and insights into their day with you.
Have your say! Do you have any tips on how to get your child to open up about their day at creche or have you tried any of our tips? We’d love to hear from you. Please share your stories with us in the comments box below.