20 Things To Tell Your Daughter

Mothers and daughters have a special bond but the world can be a scary place for your little girl when she is growing up. We’ve put together our own list of 20 Things Your Daughter Should Know. Now if only she’d listen!

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#1. Love your family.

You don’t have to like all of them all of the time but from birth to death, they will always be there for you.

#2. Smile more.

A smile can change your day; it can make you feel good on the inside and light up the life of others who see it. Sometimes it’s hard work to smile, but the return for your effort is well worth it!

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#3. Everyone is different.

And that’s OK. When you accept that, then you will learn to be happy with who you are.

#4. Let your voice be heard.

Never be afraid to say what you think or feel. Sometimes it’s worth waiting a while for the right moment to speak but what you have to say is well worth hearing for anyone who will listen.

#5. Never stop reading.

Books will be your window to the world, your solace when you’re low and make a great talking point when you’re stuck for something to say!

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#6. Don’t drink; except in moderation.

Don’t smoke; it will make you smell bad, look old and will end up killing you. Don’t do drugs; they will completely ruin your life no matter how clever you think you are, and they’re illegal.

#7. “This situation is only temporary” should be your mantra in life.

When things are going wrong, know that it won’t last for ever and a brighter day is just around the corner. Equally, when things are good, savour every minute and enjoy it as much as you can; memories of good days are what make tough times easier.

#8. Take the lead, and lead people in the right direction.

It can seem easier to follow others, to do what others do, but who you are will be lost in the crowd.

#9. Be yourself.

Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, and ditch those who make you feel bad about yourself. You shouldn’t have to change who you are for anyone and if you meet a person who makes you feel that way, they are not your friend.

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#10. Some girls are mean.

Sure, boys can be horrible sometimes, but there are girls that can take nasty to a whole new level. Remember that mean girls are lashing out because of something that is wrong in their own lives, not because of something you’ve done.

#11. Life is hairy.

Head hair, body hair – you’ll spend your life trying to grow it or get rid of it and it will probably drive you crazy!

#12. Be someone who can be trusted

If you are someone who can be trusted to not gossip or judge or make fun of other people, people will flock to you for friendship.


#13. Beauty is only skin deep.

You’ll hear that a lot in life because everyone knows that what people see on the outside is only a tiny part of who a person is. You can’t see intellect for example, and being smart will get you a lot further in life than being pretty.

#14. Things are just things.

Clothes, phones, trinkets, possessions – they are all replaceable but people aren’t, so pay more attention to your friendships more than your things.

#15. You have power.

You are beautiful and clever and witty. Other girls will envy you and boys will adore you but don’t ever use your power to be unkind or thoughtless.

#16. Love food.

It will keep you nourished and healthy, and the conversations had while eating can be the most fun of all.

#17. Love exercise.

It’s happiness guaranteed!

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#18. Be the friend you wish you had.

If you have the right qualities, you’ll attract friends who have them too.

#19. Trust your instincts.

If you’re feeling scared or worried, there is usually a good reason for it. Get yourself out of that situation as fast as you can.

#20. I will always love you, ‘no matter what’.

Have you any other additions to this list – feel free to add more in the comments section below.

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Article written by Mary Kate Heaslip, mum of 2, inspired by a list on ivillage

Related: 33 Lies that Parents tell kids, 20 Things a Mother Should Tell her Son and 20 Things You’ll Never Hear a Mum Say

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Jill is one of the co-founders of Mykidstime and a mum of 2 girls


  1. Yes agree, sound advice…just like to add “Tell your sons too”.
    Sometimes parents don’t talk enough to their children…:-)

    1. Vickie G says:

      This is a great place to go to Ty.

  2. Rachel says:

    Why just my daughters? Why wouldn’t I tell my son these things? As for #15, seriously, we want to give them the message that power = envy, grow up. For boys to adore you, I don’t even want that one to rate in their lives, particularly if any of my children identify as homosexual.

    1. Jill Holtz Jill Holtz says:

      Well we have 2 articles one for mums of daughters and one for mums of sons:

  3. Karen says:

    Enjoy being a kid. Most of your life will be spent as an adult with decisions, problems and worries. These 18 years go fast.

    1. Didakos says:

      I agree. My parents insisted for me to work on days off school since the early years, so that I would not be “useless” and I would get used quickly to how life would have been for me (i.e. work, work, work, work, work). Sadly, the whole village where I grew up shared the same vision. I met only ONE father who always repeated that “the whole life will be a lot of stress, my daughter should enjoy these carefree years”, and he was almost considered insane…

    2. Sheryl says:

      That should be in the top 10. I have 5 daughters and I tell them that all the time. You will be an adult for many many years, a child for only 12 and a teen for only 7. Don’t rush through those precious years because once they are gone you can never get them back.

  4. Elaine says:

    I think you should leave off the “in moderation” and just leave it “Don’t drink.”
    To many young and old people drink and drive and get into accidents. My grandparents were killed in a car crash, hit by a drunk driver. You can’t be sure that all people will be responsible. To tell your kids it is ok to drink ‘in moderation” is just telling them it is ok to drink. I feel it is best to just not drink.

    1. angie says:

      But in all fairness most teenagers are going to have drinks offered to them the best thing you can do is teach them to not give in to peer pressure but I would like to know that my children are going to be sensible I would never tell them to never drink just to be responsible if they want to drink they will find a way alot of drink drivers are people who haven’t been explained properly when a child asked you about drink you need to give them the facts not just shut them down with don’t drink they will eventually see others drinking and see there is no big deal but not fully understand the effect it can have if the have to much

  5. Debra kitchens says:

    Love this